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Lost in Thought

Peggy Karman • June 7, 2019

“Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature, it will never fail you.”

- Frank Lloyd Wright

Have you ever found yourself lost in your own thoughts? The good news is the “found” means you know where you are; the question is, what are you doing? I find the more I learn, the less I know; but the wisdom that I gain with each day has taught me to revel in the wonder and awe and bring it back to the reality of life as we know it. Admittedly the awe phase can feel super comfy especially if you’re sporting new rose-colored glasses, but the wonder—well that makes you think and therefore, as they say, you are, so now what? The distractions that were abundant in spring have settled into the full-grown greenery of work to be done as summer approaches and nature is telling me it’s time to get to work.

May witnesses spring in its glory, graduates strutting across stages to collect well-earned diplomas and Mothers finding themselves with a day just for themselves, while summer awaits with the next flip of the calendar; but in my hometown, it’s the first Saturday in May that makes its mark. Weeks are spent filled with festivities celebrating the fastest two minutes in sports, but there among the balloons, the bed and the steamboat races, the parade and the endless parties, is a great gathering of minds in a darkened theater right on Main Street. This collective conference did not aim to decide who the winner might have been; rather, this “catalyst for expanding our realm of consciousness,” according to Louisville mayor Greg Fischer, was trying to take us well past the proverbial finish line. The goal was not the next race, but the human race and this earth we call home.

The host of this annual event, the Center for Interfaith Relations describes the Festival of Faiths as “a nationally acclaimed interfaith event of music, poetry, film, art and dialogue with internationally renowned spiritual leaders, thinkers and practitioners,” and this year...scientists! Neuroscientists, biomedical engineers, medical practitioners, ecologists in conversation with modern day mystics, monks, and masters seeking what we all long for: some honest answers, the truth. And as usual, my mind was blown.

As discussions of the precious nature of our planet were explored, I was introduced to biomimicry, a design discipline that takes its cue from all the answers nature has waiting for us. Nature has managed fairly well the last 3.8 billion years and as our biological elder we would be best served to look to nature’s wisdom and consider consciously evolving ourselves so as to not leave this planet inhabited only by cockroaches and Cher. Although I “do believe in life after love.”

Looking to nature made so much sense to me as scientists and ecologists explained the amazing capacity to exist among the constantly changing environment that we live in just through the simple example of photosynthesis or regenerative properties of plants and species alike. As scientists have examined the vastness of the universe as well as the minutia of tiny organisms, I can’t help but think of the poets, the artists, and the architects who speak to our own feeling of minutia as they find ways to express our own communion with the sunlit trees or powerful waves that wash us in the sense of being a part of it all.

I will never forget walking into the Johnson Wax corporate headquarters in Racine, Wisconsin, in 1986 and experiencing that old-soul feeling of connection to the space designed by none other than Frank Lloyd Wright. The stories-high columns effortlessly towered like lily pads floating in space above the multitude of desks filled with employees seemingly swimming in their duties below. The enormous open concept and design details down to each desk were designed to be “as inspiring a place to work in as any cathedral ever was to worship in” according to Wright himself. Something in me changed that day—it was as if I had landed in a whole new world. Just 22 years old and over a decade before the book Biomimicry was written, I stood under those Lily Pad giants not understanding their structure and strength inspired by centuries old cacti, but humbled by their utility and grace, and something truly was awakened in me.

Architecture was a foreign concept in the wonderful neighborhood of my youth. Neatly plotted streets with true “cookie cutter” houses filled with families that coexisted alongside each other in basically the same four walls was a comfortable way to grow up, knowing once I passed through any front door it was literally just like home. And as for nature, we unwittingly found ourselves among the trees and grasses, the lightning bugs and butterflies as we were basically made to stay outside until the neighborhood dinner bell rang. At least outside there was a breeze as our homes didn’t have air conditioning; thus, were we unconsciously tied to nature as we fell asleep to the white noise of window fans and suburban sounds.

And so it was no surprise, when I first walked through our home, several years before it became ours, that something so unique, designed in tune with nature and with nods to Frank Lloyd Wright’s modernistic approach that once again, that old-soul connection stirred. Biomimicry, Biophilia, Feng Shui, Chi, whatever you want to call it—the pull to this property was beyond reason and yet so instinctual. For many, the design is so far from what they have known that they could not imagine living in such a place, but for me, there was a knowing in the design that made me instantly feel at home.

As much as I have tried to educate myself in the knowledge of the variety of design theories, principles and plans, I now have a better understanding of trusting my creative instincts and my constant desire for organic elements and ways to bring nature indoors. We all possess this innate desire to connect with other living things, it’s part of how we are made and despite the endless resources available—the millions of photos, the design apps, and perfectly pinned boards—I find most of my answers in the solitude of a hike among my trees and bubbling creek if I quietly let nature do the talking. Just like the water flowing over the limestone bed, creativity begins to flow when I find myself clearing my mind among my fellow travelers on Mother Earth.

I recently saw that Princess Kate the Duchess of Windsor has become a fan of “forest bathing” and, yes, this is a thing. Shinrin-yoku, considered a medicinal healing practice of simply walking slowly through a forest, has scientists and researchers alike studying its actual benefits that our indigenous ancestors have known all along, only now we try to measure, mark, and manage the outcomes. Just as we do our own lives. Thankfully I have come to a point where I don’t need my watch to tell me I practiced yoga or a scientist to tell me the benefits of the organic compounds of the trees or how Frank Lloyd Wright managed to build a house on a waterfall. There are no gold stars if I get it right, but just like a child seeing something for the first time there is a desire to know more and to get my hands dirty. So, for now I will continue to explore all these concepts of science, nature, and design, and thankfully, I have a fully stocked library and research lab just outside my back door. If I get lost in thought again, you’ll know where to find me.


If you want to know more about Biomimicry check out bio-sis.net and the work of Toby Herzlich of Biomimicry for Social Innovation, one of this year’s speakers at the Festival of Faiths.

Also check out any and or all the speakers from the Festival of Faiths on their YouTube channel at https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCqpTSO63x1Wdn0dzeA7Sp2g


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